Guanyin on the Joy of Marriage

I am Guanyin.

Today I'd like to talk about the joy and purpose of getting married.

As a human being, many think about marriage. This is something that has been passed down for ages and across cultures. People get married as if it is a rite of passage, as if that type of bond will satisfy their deepest desires in this life.

While marriage can bring much joy and happiness, it can also cause heartache and suffering. Today, I wish to speak about the joy, love, and peace that come with a good marriage.

For those of you who have been married, you will understand that marriage is hard work. The person you initially married may suddenly seem different from what you imagined. Even if you've lived together for a long time before getting married, you'll still discover things that are rather shocking.

"Why is this person eating this food that way?"

"Why is she not even considering this?"

"How can he just walk away like that?"

There are so many questions that keep you up at night. This is part of what you sign up for.

For those of you who choose marriage, you will get marriage. For those who prefer to remain single, you will still have relationships, even if you don't get married.

A good marriage is one where both people are invested and have also let go. Why is it so important to let go? Because once you let go, you allow your higher selves to guide the relationship. You can only do so much from your earthly perspective. It is essential to seek guidance from above, not just from the people around you, and preferably not from the people around you.

Everyone will give different advice, shaped by their own motives and experiences that may not apply to you. There's no point in asking others what you should do in your marriage. They do not live your daily life. They do not face your challenges. It is much better to turn off the phone and go for a walk.

Go for a walk in nature. Immerse yourself in its beauty and listen to the birds sing. As you settle into that vibration and that awareness, you'll begin to understand that marriage is meant to be truly beautiful. It’s intended to bring you joy, warmth, and the fire to face this life. To slay all those dragons. It is love that powers life's most sacred roles.

It’s important to know that the marriage you chose is also the one meant to bring you the greatest joy.

Are you supposed to fight? Not really, though some arguments can be beneficial.

Are you supposed to end up hating each other because you can’t reconcile your differences? No, not at all.

Instead, your differences are meant to help you grow, to become more fulfilled, happier, and even wealthier human beings. This is true, and you’ll come to know why.

Many of you struggle. You cry in the dark. You curse into the void. We hear you. And that is normal. You’re not alone. Everyone struggles in some way. You’d be surprised at the depth of pain others carry over things you might take for granted, simply because they come easily to you.

There are easy lessons and hard lessons, but I want you to see marriage as a book. A book you flip through, page by page, with each chapter carrying you through another day. There’s an adventure today, a cliffhanger for tomorrow, a small peek into what’s next. You learn to joyfully weave yourself into the highs and lows of the story.

The story you wrote before your incarnation is beautiful. It is something you, your partner, and your guides agreed was extraordinary. That’s why you're there on Earth, living out this story.

You are the author. We want you to remember this. We helped, but you wrote the story.

So when you find yourself in a moment that doesn’t feel satisfying, remember that it was through your own choices that you created this scene. And this moment exists to bring out your best, to give you joy.

Remember the promises you made to the other person:

You promised to be kind.

You promised to listen.

You promised not to judge.

Even if you fight, even if one of you walks out, even if the marriage doesn't survive, you still agreed to treat each other with kindness. You agreed to be honest with yourself and with them.

Are all marriages supposed to last? We hope so. We truly do. We believe it’s possible.

Are divorces normal? Yes, they are. But we don’t want you to even think about that. That’s not what you agreed to do.

Marriage is supposed to be fun. You're meant to do things you couldn’t do alone. You’re supposed to explore your partner’s storybook, learn from them, and see glimpses of lives that are not your own.

This is true of everyone in your life. Each relationship offers a glimpse into someone else's story. If you’re lucky, they’ll let you read an entire chapter. But most of the time, you only hear a line or two:

“This couple is having a baby.”

“They’re going on vacation.”

“They just bought a lake house.”

You hear bits and pieces and begin to wonder if they’ve figured it out, if you're the only ones struggling. But that’s not true. Every story has its ups and downs, with both dark chapters and light moments.

Children: Are they part of the marriage plan? Yes, in most cases, yes.

Many believe they can choose not to have children, and of course, that is a valid choice. But having a child opens your eyes to how vast and different the world really is. It’s not just opening another chapter. It’s opening a whole library. You’ll be mesmerized by the possibilities of the life your child could live. Their story will be very different from yours.

They’re young. You’re shaping them. Their possibilities are unknown. Everything is still available to them.

Spiritually, yes, they’ve also agreed to their own story. But we want you to believe in possibility. We want you to dream. Because if something is what you truly want, even if it wasn’t written in your original story, you can change it. You and your higher self can rewrite the script.

This is why children often seem to carry peace, innocence, and joy that comes from the other side. Let them change you.

Yes, you may worry about heartbreak, separation, or divorce. This is what we mean when we say, "Don’t flip the switch to the other side." Doing so opens a door you were never meant to walk through.

Will you learn from that path? Yes. Will it be pleasant? No. Is it necessary? Not at all.

You can learn so much more from joy, from pleasure, from kindness, from a good, happy marriage.

Does a good marriage mean following everything your spouse says? Not at all. It's not just about following your own path. It’s not about winning arguments; it’s about listening, sharing, and understanding.

It’s like planning a vacation. Half the joy is in the anticipation, the shared dreaming. Sure, the destination is lovely, but the magic starts long before.

You must stay hopeful. It is entirely normal to have problems in a marriage. No one has it figured out. Even those with seemingly perfect marriages are facing challenges that would be deal-breakers for someone else.

What’s non-negotiable for you may be negotiable for your partner, and vice versa.

So stay curious. Stay open. Be mindful of what you bring into this home, this family.

Your marriage sets the tone for everything else: your health, your career, your money. Did you know that? Everything flows from the joy within your love relationship.

We prefer marriages over dating because of the depth of commitment. When you say “yes” to someone again and again, no matter what, that is love.

That is the kind of love that breathes life back into you.